The Let Them Theory

by Mel Robbins

Mel Robbins argues that much of our stress comes from trying to control things we never could, like other people's choices, moods, opinions and timelines. When someone leaves us out, runs late, criticises us or simply doesn't make an effort, our instinct is to fix, chase or convince them. Her answer is two simple phrases. First, let them: accept that people are free to act as they choose. Second, let me: decide what you will do in response. This shift hands your time, energy and peace back to you. Robbins applies it to friendships, relationships, other people's opinions, comparison and emotions. People's behaviour becomes useful information about where to invest yourself, and you can turn someone else's success into a cue to work on your own goals. The result is a calmer, more deliberate way to live.

7 narrated, animated lessons · about 15 minutes in total.

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